My most fervent wish is for every mother to have the most joyful, and empowering, birth possible. Unfortunately, we live in a culture that believes that the pain of birth is unbearable. This is promoted by the media and the medical community. In my opinion, women have historically subjected themselves to worse kinds of pain simply to avoid the pain of physiological birth. I believe that everything in nature has a purpose. The purpose for the pain of birth is bonding. When a woman is allowed to birth in a way that works for her the entire hormonal cocktail of love can be experienced. Knowing that I was able to give birth, without any medical assistance, was the most empowering, wonderful, thing I have ever done. I simply replaced the word pain with the word work. I loved every part of birth and breastfeeding. Parenting was my most satisfying job ever!
If I were a baby I would want to be born on my terms – if possible. I would want to decide when it was time to be born. I would want to breastfeed until I was ready to wean. This is usually between one and two years. Babies are feeling and thinking human beings. What happens to them during birth is imprinted on them for life. On some level we all remember what happened to us during our birth. Breastfeeding is about so much more than just feeding. Does this guarantee that we will be happy the rest of our lives? No, but giving our children the best possible start is parenting. The best way to do this is through education and making informed decisions. I wish all parents would educate themselves so they could have the best possible birth experiences and avoid over medicalization.
Parents go to the BirthLink web site looking for information. There is a lot there. In fact there are many pages of resources and educational information. This can be overwhelming. I know the average person spends 3.5 minutes in one visit. We live fast paced busy lives but our children depend on us to make many decisions that will impact their health and well-being. Why settle for survival when you can thrive? I am working with more and more parents who want to have a say in how they birth. The way to have the most flexibility, to birth according your baby and body, is in an environment that feels safe and comfortable with people you trust and will support birth as a natural bodily function.