Mindfulness is having an awareness of our every action. Giving birth to another spirit on a human journey and becoming a parent brings hope of new beginnings and better days to come. We want to live life consciously and mindfully. Life is a journey of spiritual growth. We are aware that everything we do and think is creation. There are so many choices and decisions to be made that becoming a parent can be overwhelming. How does one learn how to birth and raise children mindfully?
We all know someone who is or will be having a baby. Three out of four women have children. Our children are our future, yet we know so little about birth as a culture. We no longer share actual birth with each other as we did for the majority of human history. Choices parents make with regard to pregnancy, birth and shortly after have a life-long impact on health and well-being of mother, baby, and family. Birth is an experience that leaves lifetime impressions. The question becomes what kind of culture or world do we want to create?
From the first moment many parents decide to invite a child spirit into their life, or the universe sees an open door and sends one, the awesomeness of this becomes a reality. There is hardly a minute of the day mother’s don’t think, wonder, ponder, muse, over the fact that they are creating another human being. There is great joy and perhaps some fear and anxiety. Every act is now done in consideration of the baby. Parents begin to prepare themselves for this most precious gift and this huge responsibility. We have the best intentions. Universally, everyone wants what is best for their children.
Even before conception many parents make lifestyle changes that will improve their health. Pregnancy progresses and beliefs about the best way to give birth begin to surface. These beliefs are formed at a very young age. Being aware of how these beliefs may affect our decisions making process is important. Family birth stories make a contribution, be they positive or negative. Educational settings and the media play a part in forming our cultural beliefs. Reading and internet research influence us. Mostly we notice what others around us are doing. What they do, we do.
Photo from Honoring Birth: 5 Phases of the Childbearing Year by Jo Anne Lindberg, photographers Jie Chang and Vickie Beaucamp