One of the most amazing and powerful workshops I have ever taken was on nonviolent communication techniques (NVC). I liked it so much I took it twice! The techniques are so wonderful that I plan to continue my studies this year. I’m especially interested in the use of the principles in the education of young children. Learning to speak from our needs is something we are not taught to do in our culture. Using feelings as a guide to meeting our needs is sounds simple yet can be difficult to do. It is difficult because we have leaned not to trust ourselves or others.
If you have an interest in a communication style that creates peace rather than conflict you may want to investigate this method. Marshall Rosenberg, the founder, has written several books and there are resource for parenting and teaching. I found some of the materials at my local public library. The web site has some interesting information. He currently lives in Switzerland and has traveled the world hosting conflict resolution in some of the most war torn countries.
“Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is based on the principles of nonviolence– the natural state of compassion when no violence is present in the heart.
NVC begins by assuming that we are all compassionate by nature and that violent strategies—whether verbal or physical—are learned behaviors taught and supported by the prevailing culture. NVC also assumes that we all share the same, basic human needs, and that each of our actions are a strategy to meet one or more of these needs. People who practice NVC have found greater authenticity in their communication, increased understanding, deepening connection and conflict resolution.”
I have heard that violent thoughts precede violent action. We can each choose to create peace by starting with how we communicate with each and every person that we come in contact with on a daily basis. Food for thought.
Here is a link to the web site: www.cnvc.org
You can also search for Marshall Rosenberg on Youtube.