Normal birth is a birth that happens on it’s own and is undisturbed. I had the opportunity to meet with a small group of pregnant mothers who asked me to speak about the midwifery model of care. Most of the mothers stated that they would like to have a natural childbirth. One of the mothers commented that she noticed that many mothers say they want natural but few of them actually achieve this goal. She wanted to know why. There are many reasons that birth in the medical model does not support normal birth. I have been working with parents for almost twenty years and it still bothers me a great deal to know that many women are afraid of birth.
I have been thinking a great deal about how far we have strayed from our natural selves. The majority of women have birth “done to them” as opposed to being empowered to birth with little or no medical intervention. There are so many negative messages, including in the language we speak, that erode our confidence in our natural abilities.
If parents are hoping for a natural or normal physiological birth they must find practitioners that are willing and able to support this. This can be done. Just because most women have inductions, pain medications, and give birth hooked to machines or surgically does not mean that this is the best way to give birth. I think all mothers know this but don’t know how to find alternatives. The medical model for birth has become normalized. Everyone seems to be doing this so it must be ok. Hardly anyone breastfeeds beyond six months so it must be ok.
Everyone who understands the importance of the birth and early parenting period has an obligation to educate parents so they can make informed decisions. Parents have an obligation to their child to educate themselves about their options for their child’s health and well-being. Our children grow up to become adults that run businesses, schools, and countries. I have committed my life to education and creating a more loving society. I want to live in a world that supports human growth and development and honors and celebrates life. That is what I believe members of the birth and wellness communities are striving for. It all begins with undisturbed birth, bonding and breastfeeding. Imagine a world where everyone could achieve their full potential! Wow! I will settle for nothing less.